How To Beat Insecurity With Style: Tips For The Modern Man

More men are insecure than you’d realize. No matter how we dress or what we say, there could be a voice in the back of the head that tears down everything someone does. If you’re a man who identifies with this sentence, this is the article for you. 

In the wide world of insecurities, we’re going to focus on the one thing that’s easy to do something about: the way you interact with your style. How do you like to dress? How do you think it reflects you as a person? And what complex feelings arise when you see yourself in the mirror? 

The modern man might find it hard to answer these questions. But the more you dig into the way your style gives you confidence, the easier it’s going to be to actually feel the way you dress. As such, here are some things to keep in mind. 

What are Your Insecurities?

The first thing to do is address the things you’re really insecure about. If you want your style to allow you to feel more confident, breaking these down into areas that can be ‘worked on’ is key. 

Your insecurities could be very specific, and they could be wide ranging on top of that. It can be hard to manage, but try to isolate them one by one. Maybe it’s the way you look in your current clothes? If so, you might be due a wardrobe update! Or maybe it’s your hair? If so, you can check out these tips for thinning hair and become more in touch with your grooming routine. 

Dress Comfortably Before Dressing Confidently

Being comfortable is the best form of self compassion known to man. If you’re the kind of guy who’s hyper aware of the way you stand, look, and feel when in a crowd, dressing in soft and comfortable clothes can bring that vibe right down. 

When you feel comfortable, confidence soon follows. You just need to have that comfortable feeling about you and understand the way your brain and body interacts with your clothes. It might take some time, but don’t give up on it. 

A Sense of Effortlessness Brings Confidence

Effortless style makes people think you know what you’re doing. It’s why you shouldn’t put too much thought into the way you dress, but at the same time, always make an effort. Depending on where you’re going this is going to look different, but if you can build a ‘template’ for your fashion sense, you can quickly and easily get dressed in the morning. 

The Clothes Make the Man, But Not Always

It’s easy to feel that your personal style is all you’ve got. It’s also easy to feel that’s all people see you as. If you’re a smart and snappy dresser, people will immediately be pleased to see you. And while it’s true that we make snap judgements about other people based on the way they look, everything can change when you actually start interacting. 

It’s one of the biggest things the modern generation has done well. We’ve worked to take first impressions out of the equation in social situations. These days more and more people understand that the person underneath is what matters. The value is in getting involved. 

Think about this the next time you bemoan your wardrobe. If you’re headed somewhere like a job interview, your style will be important. But if you’re headed somewhere casual like a bar, you can relax. 

Talk About it

Insecurity doesn’t need to be hidden away. If you feel wrong in your skin in certain situations, tell someone. Talk about it and make an effort to open up. Modern men should be in touch with their feelings, and even when you’re dressed well and feel like the outside matches the inside, unbottling is the best way forward. 

It’s also very stylish for a man to talk about the way he feels. Talking about the things that bother you allows you to carry yourself differently; you walk with your head higher, you become approachable, and your energy will always win out in a highly crowded room. 

People have always felt insecure and always felt like they had to cover it up. But as a modern man, you can use your style to work with your feelings and even become the confident person you’d like to be. Keep tips like these in mind as you go forward; talking about the problem only makes it easier to solve.